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Stronger Teams, Deeper Connections: The Power of Staying Together

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 01:57:59 GMT

How Does Staying Together on a Team Benefit?

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Why Staying Together as a Team After a Tournament Matters

When athletes gather for tournaments, the competition often takes center stage, along with long days of sitting and hurry up and waiting. However, what happens after the final whistle, or division is equally important. Staying together in the same hotel after tournaments isn’t just about logistics—it provides mental, emotional, and social benefits for everyone involved, from young athletes to parents and coaches.

1. Building Bonds that Last Beyond the Competition

Spending time together off the field or mat helps solidify team connections. Shared experiences, whether they involve a thrilling win or a tough loss, create a sense of belonging and unity that fosters deeper friendships and trust among team members. ( Participation ; Greater Good ) . Social interactions outside of competitive settings provide opportunities for athletes and their families to connect on a personal level, strengthening relationships that can extend into long-term friendships and support networks.

2. Mental Health Benefits of Social Support

Being part of a cohesive group is a powerful tool for reducing stress and anxiety. Team settings offer emotional safety, where individuals can decompress and discuss the highs and lows of competition with people who understand the challenges they face. (Jama Network) According to studies, athletes who participate in group sports and activities report fewer symptoms of depression and anxiety compared to those involved in solo sports (TRINE UNIVERSITY) . Social support also fosters resilience by helping athletes navigate setbacks and challenges, both in sports and in life (Greater Good)

3. Creating a Sense of Purpose and Belonging

Team environments naturally provide a sense of structure, purpose, and motivation. Celebrations and gatherings after competitions help players reflect on their achievements, reinforcing the sense that they are part of something bigger than themselves. This shared sense of purpose is a key factor in both personal growth and team success, giving athletes—young and old—a reason to stay engaged and committed.

4. Positive Influence on Adults and Families

It’s not just athletes who benefit from these gatherings. Parents and family members also build meaningful connections that contribute to their own well-being. Research shows that participating in group activities improves life satisfaction, helps adults feel more connected to their communities, and boosts mental health. A strong support network among parents strengthens the team dynamic, creating an inclusive environment that makes everyone feel valued.

5. Motivation and Consistency Through Group Engagement

Gathering at the same hotel after tournaments encourages consistency and participation. Studies indicate that people are more likely to stay committed to activities when they feel accountable to others. Knowing that their teammates and friends will be there fosters a sense of responsibility and motivation that leads to improved performance—not just in sports but in daily life.

Conclusion

Staying in the same hotel after tournaments goes far beyond convenience. It strengthens the mental and social well-being of athletes and their families, builds friendships, and fosters a sense of belonging. These moments of connection and reflection create memories that fuel personal growth and team success, leaving a lasting impact on everyone involved. So, the next time your team gathers, take a moment to appreciate the value of these shared experiences—they are the foundation of both competitive excellence and lifelong friendships.

Resources:
https://www.participaction.com/blog/mental-health/5-mental-health-benefits-of-team-sports/

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/research_digest/team_sports_boost_mental_health

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2734743

https://www.trine.edu/academics/centers/center-for-sports-studies/blog/2021/mental_health_in_team_sports_compared_to_individual_sports.aspx

https://www.vitality.co.uk/magazine/team-spirit-how-playing-team-sports-can-boost-your-mental-wellbeing/

Not All Ninjas Are The Same

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 14:00:00 GMT

Not All Ninja's Are The Same

All parents want the same thing: for their child to be a positive member of society and experience success. While these are important goals, they often come through a push to achieve and be the best in everything. Unfortunately, this frequently involves comparing children to others, which can lead to stress and lower self-esteem. It's essential to remember that each child has different strengths and developmental rates.

The SKILLZ program was developed to place children in classes that match their stage of development. Instead of having a 5-year-old in the same class as a 10-year-old and expecting the same outcomes, the levels are split based on research in science and psychology. This helps target children's skills and abilities, ensuring the challenges are neither too difficult nor too easy.

Each SKILLZ level focuses on the needs of a specific age group. However, parents sometimes still compare their children to others in the class. For example, in the Core SKILLZ class, one child may achieve agility skills faster, while another may achieve concentration skills faster. There is nothing to worry about; they will each achieve the skill when they are ready. The important thing is that they are both making progress compared to their previous individual performance.

The ultimate goal of this program is to help each child become the best version of themselves. In this context, "of themselves" is the key phrase. It is important to remember that even within age-specific classes, there are still individual differences among children, including strengths and learning rates. As Robert John Meehan said, “Every child has a different learning style and pace. Each child is unique, not only capable of learning but also capable of succeeding.”

There is a time for healthy competition to give children a little push out of their comfort zone to achieve another level. However, when discussing individual development, comparing one child to another can undermine self-esteem and drive. Besides, if everyone could do the same thing at every level, what fun would that be?

We must meet children where they are in their own individual development. From there, we can enhance their strengths and help them improve in areas that are more challenging. Appreciate each child's uniqueness and foster their development by celebrating their successes and creating the drive in them to achieve more. Using both extrinsic and intrinsic motivation will move them closer to success than comparison ever will. Remember, “Don’t compare your child to others. There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time.”

By fostering an environment that celebrates individual achievements and encourages personal growth, we can help children develop into confident, capable individuals who are prepared for the challenges ahead. Let's focus on nurturing their unique talents and watching them shine in their own time.

This blog was created with grammar edits from AI

Proper Warmup

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 22:09:39 GMT

The Key to Sports Injury Prevention

Children and teens are involved in a myriad of physical activities and sports. Whether they are at a competitive or recreational level, the basic physical requirements are the same. To achieve optimal training levels, exercises must prepare the athlete for the best physical outcome. The safest way to begin higher levels of training is with a proper warmup, which is a crucial piece of preventing injuries.

When people hear the term “warmup” in relation to physical activities, they generally think of stretching, specifically static stretching, which involves holding a certain position for a set amount of time. While stretching is beneficial, the type of stretching before the actual activity or sport is key. Experts in sports medicine recommend a warmup that consists of dynamic stretching. This type of stretching involves moving your body through your range of motion while gradually increasing speed and reach.

During a warmup consisting of dynamic stretching, the body is gently prepared for the more intense activity or sport to come. This should involve movements similar to those in your activity or sport but initially at a much lower level. As speed and intensity gradually increase, muscle temperature and heart rate increase. The increase in blood flow helps loosen joints and supplies the muscles with oxygen, which helps them work more efficiently throughout the activity.

The end of a workout is the best time to work on static stretching. When muscles are warmed up properly, they are pliable, and therefore, flexibility can be gained without overstretching. Maintaining good flexibility is also important in injury prevention, but it's important to note that you don’t have to be overly flexible for this to happen. Moving through a healthy range of motion is enough. Overstretching can counteract the strength gained through the activity.

The SKILLZ program class format was designed with this in mind. Since the foundation is rooted in martial arts, preparing the body, no matter the age, is essential to achieving the skills required for further training. Each class begins with a set of movements that prepare the body for the skill-building drills that will follow. Once this part of the class is complete, students go through a set of stretches that help increase their flexibility and work through any muscles that may have tightened up during class. Throughout the class, the instructors make corrections to any movement to ensure proper execution.

Since so many children and teens are involved in physical activities and sports today, coaches must teach them the proper way to prepare their bodies for the workout ahead. Many do not warm up enough and many do their warmups incorrectly. Taking time to teach children and teens the correct way now will help prevent injuries and give them a basic understanding of caring for their bodies in future athletic activities.

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Empowering vs Enabling – The Fine Line of Parenting

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 03:56:51 GMT

Empowering vs Enabling - The Fine Line of Parenting

We live in a competitive world and most parents would jump at the chance to give their child every advantage imaginable. The world can also be unkind and, as parents, we feel a need to protect our children from everything possible. And yes, parents are supposed to help and protect their children but when does supporting children turn into overhelping? The difference between the two is a very fine line and is often very difficult to decipher.

Responsible parenting means providing food, clothing, and shelter, giving attention and love, and protecting our children from danger. It does not mean doing everything for them and protecting them from anything that may bring them grief. This type of parenting is excessive and can develop due to a parent’s fear, anxiety, or peer pressure from other parents. It can also be a way that parents overcompensate for the difficult childhood they experienced. Whatever the case, although hyper-involvement comes from a place of love, it can actually hinder a child’s ability to achieve autonomy.

In child development terms, autonomy develops when children can function independently and have choices. Without this, they may experience what psychologist Erik Erikson called “shame and doubt.” This leads to decreased confidence and increased anxiety. And when parents make all the decisions and fix all the problems for their children, those children have underdeveloped coping and life skills. The goal should not be to raise dependent children but, instead, to raise resilient and confident ones.

In order for this to happen, parents must empower their children by teaching self-reliance. The goal is to raise children who are independent and stable on their own. For this to happen children must be allowed to make mistakes and learn to be resourceful in finding solutions to problems that present themselves. Parents can do this by supporting their children without completely removing themselves from the process. It is important for parents to be there for their children as a sounding board. This will help them develop healthy coping strategies and feel more confident in their decision making.

One way to do this is by letting children make mistakes in a safe environment. In the SKILLZ program, instructors utilize the classroom as a way to foster autonomy while teaching the skill of the day. By using Teaching SKILLZ such as “choices” and “intrinsic motivation,” instructors are providing opportunities for children to make their own decisions so they feel confident. And when a mistake is made, instructors use “re-direction” to get them back on track and try again.

The line between empowering and enabling is a very fine one. But as career and life coach Maura Koutoujian put it, “When a child is enabled, they miss out in the opportunity to cultivate intrinsic motivation - a critical component in developing accountability and self-confidence.” Although it’s hard for parents to see their children struggle, hurt and disappointment are a part of life and children need to develop ways to overcome those things on their own. Supportive parenting should always move children closer to independence and stability which will lead to resilient adults in the future.

Safety First: Halloween Tips for Our Karate Family

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 23:28:42 GMT

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With Halloween just around the corner, we want to ensure that our karate family enjoys a fun, memorable, and most importantly, safe celebration. While our training teaches us self-discipline and awareness, Halloween brings unique challenges that we all should be prepared for. Here are some safety tips to keep in mind:

1. Costume Safety

Visibility: Ensure that costumes are bright and reflective. If your child is wearing a dark costume, consider adding reflective tape or carry glow sticks.
Fit: Costumes should fit well to avoid trips and falls. Remember, karate kicks and moves need a bit more room!
Masks: Instead of masks, which can obstruct vision, use non-toxic face paint or makeup.

2. Street Smarts

Stay on Sidewalks: Avoid walking in the streets. If there are no sidewalks, walk facing traffic and stay as far to the left as possible.
Cross with Care: Always cross streets at corners, using traffic signals and crosswalks.
Stay Aware: Teach your kids to make eye contact with drivers before crossing in front of them.

3. Group Safety

Travel in Groups: There's safety in numbers. Encourage your children to trick-or-treat with friends and family.
Stay Connected: If older children are going alone, ensure they have a phone with them and set check-in times.
Know the Route: If you’re not accompanying your children, be aware of the route they’ll be taking.

4. Trick or Treat Safety

Houses to Avoid: Only visit well-lit homes and never accept invitations to enter a stranger's home.
Check the Treats: Always inspect candy and treats before allowing your child to consume them. Discard anything that looks tampered with or homemade treats from strangers.

5. Karate Discipline

Respect for Others: Remember our karate values of respect and discipline. Halloween is fun, but it’s important to respect others’ property and not to engage in pranks that might harm or scare others.
Awareness: Just as in our training, always be aware of your surroundings. Look out for cars, unfamiliar people, or anything unusual.

6. Stay Hydrated and Fed

With all the excitement and potential physical activity, ensure kids have a good meal before heading out and stay hydrated throughout their Halloween adventures.

7. Pet Safety

If you have pets, keep them indoors. The noise and excitement can be stressful for them. Plus, there's always the risk of them getting hold of some candy which might be harmful.

Halloween is a fantastic time of year where creativity shines, and communities come together. By adhering to these safety measures and instilling in our children the principles we learn in karate – respect, awareness, and discipline – we can ensure it remains a joyful occasion for all.

Stay safe, enjoy, and Happy Halloween from all of us at TVSKarate!

World Karate Day

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 18:04:36 GMT

Karate: A Deep Dive into its Origins and Evolution

Karate, a martial art that many of us are familiar with, has roots that plunge deep into history. Its popularity in movies, competitions, and dojos across the world is a testament to its enduring appeal. But to truly appreciate karate, it's important to trace its beginnings, evolution, and the land from where it all started: Okinawa.

Origins: Okinawa and the Ancient Martial Traditions

The journey of karate began on the Ryukyu Islands, particularly Okinawa, which is often termed the birthplace of this martial art. The islands had a vibrant trade relationship with China, and during the Ming dynasty, Chinese martial artists and families settled in Okinawa. This blending of cultures led to the fusion of native Okinawan fighting styles with Chinese martial arts, leading to the creation of early forms of karate.

Originally, karate was known as 'Te' in Okinawa, which simply means 'hand'. Different villages and regions had their own styles like Shuri-te, Naha-te, and Tomari-te, named after the regions in Okinawa.

Karate and its Philosophy

Beyond the punches and kicks, the philosophy of karate is deeply rooted in 'shurei-no-kokoro' or the spirit of courtesy. It wasn't merely about self-defense; it was about cultivating discipline, respect, and a deep sense of purpose. It was this philosophy, combined with its effective techniques, that made karate more than just a martial art. It became a way of life for many.

The Shift to Mainland Japan and Globalization

Karate began its journey to mainland Japan in the early 20th century. Gichin Funakoshi, an Okinawan master, is often credited for introducing karate to Japan. Funakoshi not only showcased the physical aspects of karate but also emphasized its philosophical dimensions, making it more palatable to the Japanese who were deeply influenced by Bushido, the samurai code.

In the subsequent decades, karate schools or dojos sprouted across Japan. The martial art was systematized, styles were formalized, and katas (patterns of movement) became standardized. By the mid-20th century, the rest of the world began to take notice.

Hollywood and global cinema played a significant role in popularizing karate, portraying it in action-packed sequences, and highlighting its discipline and ethos.

Conclusion

Today, karate is not only a means of self-defense but also a sport, a discipline, and for many, a way of life. From the serene shores of Okinawa to the bustling streets of Tokyo, and then to every corner of the globe, karate's journey is a testament to its timeless appeal and universal principles.

As we practice or watch karate, it's vital to remember and respect its rich history and the values it upholds. After all, in every kata, punch, and kiai, there's a story of an ancient tradition that has traversed time and oceans to reach us.

There are many views to karate and there are many philosophies, some with western world ideals put into the thoughts. What is most important is making sure to respect the roots from where it came from and try to pass along the information from what was given teaching both what it was and sharing the new ideas with it.

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Martial Arts Outside of the Dojo

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 20:27:30 GMT

Martial Arts Outside of the Dojo

After embarking on your journey into martial arts training, you'll quickly come to realize that the teachings within the dojo carry significance beyond the confines of the training floor. Martial arts bestow upon you a sense of discipline and self-control that extends its influence to various facets of your daily life. Here are several ways in which the positive impact of discipline can reshape your everyday habits:

Effective Time Management: The pursuit of martial arts demands commitment and consistent practice. By dedicating yourself to a structured training regimen, you'll naturally nurture valuable time management abilities. These skills not only propel your martial arts proficiency but also assist you in organizing tasks, meeting deadlines, and optimizing your time across different spheres of life.

Setting and Achieving Goals: The world of martial arts emphasizes the process of setting and attaining goals as a fundamental aspect. Whether it involves mastering a novel technique or progressing to a higher belt rank, this skill seamlessly transitions to your daily existence. It empowers you to establish meaningful objectives and diligently work towards them with unwavering focus and determination.

Cultivating Mental Resilience: The rigors of martial arts training encompass both physical and mental challenges. Through the cultivation of discipline, you'll foster mental resilience that empowers you to surmount obstacles and venture beyond your comfort zone. This newfound mental fortitude serves as a valuable asset when confronting adversities in other realms of life, be it work, relationships, or personal aspirations.

Effective Stress Management: The practice of martial arts necessitates unwavering focus and concentration. As you learn to govern your body and mind during training, you concurrently develop effective stress management techniques. The discipline ingrained by martial arts contributes to stress reduction and furnishes a constructive outlet for releasing tension. These acquired skills find application in managing stress in your daily routine, subsequently enhancing your overall state of well-being.

Cultivating Self-Confidence and Self-Discipline: Martial arts training nurtures self-assurance through achievements and personal advancement. The discipline cultivated through training leaves an indelible mark on your self-discipline beyond the dojo's walls. Strengthened self-discipline equips you to effectively resist distractions, uphold concentration on tasks, and triumph over your objectives. This bolstered self-discipline translates into heightened confidence in tackling challenges and surmounting perceived limitations.

Discipline transcends the notion of rigid constraints or the denial of enjoyment. Rather, it's the process of nurturing habits and routines that harmonize with your aspirations and principles. By embracing the potency of discipline within your daily existence, you can amplify your efficacy, well-being, and personal evolution. Infuse the lessons imbibed from martial arts into your day-to-day regimen, and observe how discipline evolves into a guiding force that molds a gratifying and successful life.

How Martial Arts Cultivate Peace

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 20:09:09 GMT

How Martial Arts Cultivate Peace

The pursuit of peace is universal, and while it might not be the first avenue you think of, martial arts is a path that brings it closer. The way martial artists conduct themselves and relate to others reflects these underlying principles.

Here's a closer look at three ways martial arts nurture peace:

Steadiness Amid Chaos .

Martial artists are taught to maintain their composure during tense situations. Like quenching flames with a splash of cold water, a trained individual can shift the atmosphere around them by remaining poised. This tranquility, whether during moments of external aggression or internal conflict, represents the martial artist's journey towards peace.

The Assurance of Self-Belief .

True confidence brings about a certain comfort. When you're sure of yourself, situations seem manageable, and the next steps appear clearer. Such assurance, a direct result of rigorous training in mastering one's body, thoughts, and emotions, often subdues any potential confrontation. An opponent, sensing this assurance, may be more inclined to avoid conflict. Through genuine self-belief, peace becomes an inherent outcome.

Mindful Application of Abilities .

Progression in martial arts is accompanied by an increasing sense of responsibility. The core teaching stresses on wielding one's skills judiciously. This power should only be exercised in scenarios of self-defense or sanctioned competitions. Recognizing one's capacity to cause harm and choosing restraint is an embodiment of peace. Martial arts underline the idea that for a conflict to occur, it requires two participants. By opting for a responsible approach, a martial artist ensures they aren't one of them, emerging as a beacon of peace.

Conflict Resolution

Mon, 15 May 2023 14:00:00 GMT

Developing a Growth Mindset in a Competitive World

In today’s world competition is everywhere and it often starts at a very young age. It begins as a fun, skill-developing event but can quickly become time-consuming and competitive. While some parents want their children pushed to help them learn the hard lessons of life, others want to protect their children from the disappointment that can come with competition. Both sides have pros and cons, but a balanced approach is what will truly help a child develop a competitive nature in a healthy way.

Competition can be fun and exhilarating, especially if you are on the winning side. This drive to compete and win is very strong in our society in every age group and industry. When children are involved in competitive events, it can teach them goal setting techniques as well as how to deal with the frustrations that can come along with losing. Competition also helps children learn to take turns and support their teammates.

On the flip side, some parents are often concerned that competition will lead to more stress and anxiety in their children because the push to win is so strong. When loss comes along, it can develop lower self-esteem in children and can make them feel that they don’t have what it takes. Therefore, parents often feel that competition is more destructive to their child then beneficial.

While both views of competition are valid, it is important that we find a balance for children where they can develop a healthy competitive spirit while maintaining a strong self-image. While this can sound like a difficult balance, it is actually very easy to attain. The key is to work with children on developing a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset. Carol Dweck, first introduced this concept in her book “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.” Dweck stated that when people feel they have traits that cannot be changed, they have a fixed mindset and have a need to prove themselves continuously through competition. People with a growth mindset believe that they can improve on their current abilities and add new skills through time and effort.

So how do we teach children this? One of the best ways is by creating an environment that develops both extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. Extrinsic motivation is a reward driven behavior. A child can earn a reward or trophy by exhibiting certain actions. Intrinsic motivation comes from a wanting achieve a goal and feeling satisfied with yourself for attaining it. Both of these are important in developing a healthy competitive mindset.

Martial arts is a great way for children to learn a balance of extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. They can earn new belt levels by exhibiting certain techniques with accuracy but since it is more of an individualized sport, they learn to set goals for themselves and feel proud for improving their skill set. The instructors in the SKILLZ program utilize both types of motivation as teaching skills for each class. That way students are motivated to earn external rewards such as stripes and belts but they also learn to feel internally proud for getting better than they were before.

As children develop it is important that we maximize their potential by helping them set different types of goals and learn important lessons along the way. While competing against others is a great way for children to evaluate their skills against another person, the ultimate goal should be to improve their personal skill level. Success isn’t always about winning. Helping children become better than they were before will help them become internally driven and create a growth mindset.

Article you can read about growth mindset:

https://scottjeffrey.com/change-your-fixed-mindset/

https://www.futurelearn.com/info/blog/general/develop-growth-mindset

Developing a Growth Mindset

Thu, 11 May 2023 14:00:00 GMT

Developing a Growth Mindset in a Competitive World

Article you can read about growth mindset:

https://scottjeffrey.com/change-your-fixed-mindset/

https://www.futurelearn.com/info/blog/general/develop-growth-mindset

Situational Awareness

Mon, 08 May 2023 13:30:00 GMT

Situational Awareness – Increasing Children’s Observational Skills

Today's world is busy; people are rushing here and there to get to work, school, the store, or the next activity. Even our “leisure” time is filled with busyness. And during all of it, we are distracted by our devices. This not only leads to us missing important moments in our lives, but it also creates a higher likelihood that we would become the victim of a crime or, at very best, be unable to help someone near us that was. Therefore, it is essential to teach children to be perceptive and educate them on situational awareness skills to improve their safety.

Nowadays, not only are children distracted as they play and talk with their friends when they are out, but they are also looking down at their phones or other devices. When they are alone, they are often using headphones as well. These behaviors set them up for dangerous situations because they are entirely unaware of what is going on in the environment around them. Research indicates that offenders look for these behaviors when choosing their victims. These things, along with a lack of confidence and directionless movement, add to the probability of becoming a target, so parents must be vigilant in teaching their children essential awareness tactics.

Younger children, especially, are instinctively observant and inquisitive; this is how they learn. Using these natural qualities to help them become more aware of their surroundings can be advantageous. Encouraging children to use all their senses and be on the lookout for things outside the norm in a specific environment will increase their instincts. Using games such as "I Spy" and “Guess Who?” children’s descriptive vocabulary will be enhanced, and their brains will be trained to observe details. These things, in addition to remembering details such as what entrance they came in and where the car was parked, will keep their brain active throughout the visit.

And while remembering details is a vital piece of situational awareness, children also need to be confident as they navigate through any location. In the SKILLZ program, children are trained in a way that maximizes their physical, intellectual, emotional, and social development. By participating in this age-specific training, children become more confident in their abilities and have more control. Their minds are sharp as instructors utilize neurobics to increase the brain's connections, which keeps them from "zoning out."

As children grow and develop autonomy, parents must arm them with important tools for personal safety. And while we do not want to cause paranoia, we must teach them to be on the lookout for odd behaviors and to constantly reevaluate their surroundings. By building their instincts, children can minimize their chances of being a victim, can warn others of possible danger, and help give details information of any situation that arises. Children then become confident when navigating through any environment and can manage themselves in any situation.

Mother's Day

Mon, 08 May 2023 04:16:03 GMT

Mother's Day Class for ALL Mom's & Grandmother's

Hey Meridian Idaho Mamas! ��

Has anyone told you that you’re doing an AWESOME job⁉️

Mom's work so hard and sometimes do not get the opportunity to have time to enjoy themselves and have a little fun.

In honor of you and all that you do, we are hosting a Moms and Kids class.

Get ready for:

�� Fun with your Child

�� Partner Drills

�� A Great Workout

Join us for the most special Martial Arts class we have hosted YET on May 12th at 6pm.

Please RSVP ahead of time by sending us a message or giving us a call at 208-936-0326.

If you are ready to register - Register below:

Martial Arts - the Art of Peace

Wed, 28 Dec 2022 04:52:09 GMT

Martial Arts - The Art of Peace

The Art of Peace

For years, martial arts has gotten a bad reputation because people feel that it encourages violence, especially in children. And yes, it sounds like a paradox that something that teaches “fighting” can actually make people less aggressive. However, what most people don’t know is that martial arts is rooted in nonviolent conflict resolution.

As the founder of Aikido, O’Sensei Morihei Ueshiba, said, “To injure an opponent is to injure yourself. To control aggression without inflicting injury is the Art of Peace.” Controlling aggression is the ultimate goal of martial arts. In order to do this, martial arts teaches respect and humility as well as life and social skills.

In any form of martial art, there is tradition and discipline. From a simple bow to an instructor or other student to waiting for the next direction, students become more patient and respectful. But not only does martial arts teach these simpler lessons but it also teaches lessons that have a deeper meaning and application such as goal setting, control over strong emotions and reactions, and self-actualization.

As students learn these character lessons, they begin transferring them into their everyday lives. One of the major things that all of this helps children with is increased self-esteem. When children feel good about who they are as an individual, aggressive tendencies diminish. This is because they no longer feel a need to “prove” themselves and their abilities. They have learned to internalize integrity so that violence is not even an option.

It is important to note, though, that the instructor is at the forefront of this training. Instructors must lead by example and promote the tenets of the martial arts they teach. Showing compassion and respect to students, while teaching them, will be more beneficial. Take, for example, the movie “The Karate Kid.” In the movie, there are two different instructors, two different students, but both are working on the same thing…martial arts. However, the Cobra Kai instructor focuses on aggressiveness and anger in his teaching, while Mister Miyagi teaches from a place of peace and conflict resolution, making the actual use of martial arts to be only as a last resort and a means of self-defense.

The SKILLZ program takes the martial arts traditional concepts a step further by dedicating time to Life SKILLZ during class. These character-building lessons expand on traditional martial arts tenets and make them easy to comprehend. This is because they are broken up based on a student’s age and level of understanding. Lessons on sportsmanship, kindness, and optimism are just a few of the ones that are touched on throughout each student’s journey to black belt.

Martial arts is a holistic approach to the self. The physical requirements benefit the student greatly. The social, intellectual, and emotional benefits are, however, the most significant. When taught correctly, martial arts can be the most peaceful approach to conflict resolution, bullying, and violence.

Game Based Learning 10-14 Year Olds

Fri, 02 Dec 2022 04:46:41 GMT

GAME-BASED LEARNING

The Benefits of Game-Based Learning for 10 - 14 year olds

Every day children are faced with increased amounts of pressure to work harder, learn more quickly, and manage their emotions. This is especially true for 10 to 14-year olds due to their intellectual growth during this period. However, this pressure is unhealthy for them and can lead to anxiety and depression.

The premise of the game show “Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader?” tells us that children at this age are extremely smart. Along with that, their critical thinking skills are top-notch. The downfall to this age group’s intellect is that their decision-making skills are the exact opposite. Their physical abilities are also great but 10 to 14-year olds tend to be lazy which leads to sloppiness. Children at this age are all over the emotional spectrum and they care about what their peers think.

Because their abilities at this age, as well as societal and academic pressures, play is often put on the back burner as a learning resource. However, as Diane Ackerman said, “Play is our brain’s favorite way of learning.” This holds true for 10 to 14-year olds. The problem is that education reform has taken the excitement and creativity from the classroom for pre-teens and teens.

For this reason, a program with a foundation of a game-based learning approach is extremely important. This method gets them excited about learning, so they put forth more effort. It also requires that they pay attention to detail and react to obstacles with determination.

With the SKILLZ program, 10 to 14-year olds are challenged so that they can establish a foundation of extreme skill development. The 4-dimensional approach to instruction that is used in every class benefits the student by focusing on all stages of their current development. They are encouraged to demonstrate dexterity and strength on small details, apply focus and versatility, show good decision-making skills and effort, and show maturity when working with peers.

For example, in the drill “Forms Tag” students are partnered up and are asked to run through their form. When the instructor says “tag” the other partner must take over and finish the form from that point. During this drill, the students must begin the form and focus on applying energy and strength to each move in an effort to demonstrate dexterity to small details. This helps with their physical development because it decreases sloppiness in their forms. Intellectually this assists their development by having them apply focus and precision so that they don’t hold back on challenges that they find too easy or too hard. Emotionally, they develop better decision-making skills when put under the pressure to execute proper reaction. And by working with a partner, the students are learning to show maturity when working with a peer and take praise and recognition when they are doing well.

When 10 to 14-year olds participate in programs or activities that include game-based learning, they continue to develop at a rapid rate in all four stages of development. A well-rounded program that makes learning fun helps children build confidence and trust in the learning process, while minimizing anxiety. This fusion of learning and fun makes children become passionate for lifelong learning.

Game Based Learning 7-9 Year Olds

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 03:40:23 GMT

GAME-BASED LEARNING

The Benefits of Game-Based Learning for 7-9 year olds

When we hear the word “ learn ” we often think of children sitting in a classroom, at a desk, with a teacher educating students on a particular subject. We rarely ever imagine playing a game as a teaching and learning tool. However, the benefits of utilizing this can span more developmental areas than learning about a single subject through lecture and worksheets. As O. Fred Donaldson said, “ Children learn as they play. More importantly, in play, children learn how to learn .”

Children between the ages of 7 and 9-years old are what most people consider “ the golden age .” They are at a unique growth period in their life. They are proficient in their vocabulary and problem-solving skills, yet they are not at the age where they want complete independence from adults. They are refined in their gross motor skills but are still establishing a foundation in core skill development.

Children at this age are extremely bright and are very enthusiastic. They love a challenge and enjoy the spotlight. However, they often get frustrated when things don’t go their way and are just learning to tap into their emotions. Distractions can be a challenge for them as well.

For this age group, a program that involves game-based learning is extremely effective. Since they are generally excited about new things, utilizing games as a method of learning will keep their eagerness high and learning continues to be associated with a strong positive emotion. This will keep them coming back for more! And even better, they develop skills that benefit them in all four stages of development.

In the SKILLZ program, we utilize game-based learning drills since they are crucial for stimulating “working memory” in the brain. During these drills, neurons began firing which leads to new neural growth, which helps their intellectual development. Our instructors interact with our students, during the drills, in a way that triggers oxytocin in the brain and helps with their emotional and social development. And since we utilize martial arts as a vehicle to help develop the whole child, their physical development is enhanced through the drill itself.

For example, in the drill “Brain Games” the students will form lines, each one with an instructor. The students will be asked to run to the instructor and perform a technique with good form. This benefits their physical development by requiring them to be more precise in their movement. When the student approaches to begin the drill, the instructor picks a category of items, such as colors or animals, to count in, instead of numbers. This use of neurobics helps the student stay focused, therefore, benefiting their intellectual development. This drill helps with emotional development because they learn to persevere when counting their repetitions, via a different method, becomes challenging. And throughout the drill, the student is interacting with the instructor in a positive manner which benefits them socially.

By utilizing a game-based learning approach with 7 to 9-year olds, we can help them develop as a whole by adapting to their adventurous attitude and youthful nature while at the same time building skills that set them up for success.

Game Based Learning 5 - 6 Year Olds

Fri, 03 Jun 2022 15:39:40 GMT

GAME-BASED LEARNING

The Benefits of Game-Based Learning for 5-6 year olds

When people generally think of “play” they think of fun and games…something simply for amusement and nothing more. However, there is a bigger, and more important, piece that is often overlooked…learning. As Kay Redfield Jamison said, “Children need the freedom and time to play. Play is not a luxury. Play is a necessity.”

The same is true for game-based learning. When parents hear this term, they think that their children will only be “playing games” and that no learning will be involved. What a lot do not understand is that game-based learning helps children develop physically, intellectually, emotionally, and socially, all at the same time. And better yet, when information is learned in a fun way, children retain it better and want to continue to participate in the activities.

For 5 and 6-year old’s, specifically, they are at a unique growth period in their life. They are refined in their gross motor skills but are still establishing a foundation in basic fundamental skills. Physically, they still lack a lot of strength. Intellectually, they have a hard time retaining information beyond three commands. Emotionally they act silly when they are nervous or excited, but their confidence is built through making role models proud. Socially, they enjoy the spotlight but tend to lack proper sportsmanship.

After years of research on the stages of child development and learning the Basic SKILLZ program was created. This program is geared towards developing the basic fundamental skills that 5 and 6-year old’s are lacking. By creating a program that incorporates 4-dimensional instruction, students improve in all developmental stages, all the while, having fun! Coupled with this is a game-based approach to learning that is implemented. This method helps the students become fully engaged in learning because they are “playing a game” and having fun.

For example, one of the drills called “Taking Turns” requires that the students are partnered up. During the directions for the drill, the instructor gives the students a few steps to remember in order to complete the drill correctly. This helps this age group by giving them multiple steps to remember but in a fun way that will be easily retained. Socially, they are working with a partner and focused on good sportsmanship and teamwork. Physically the drill requires the students to perform 20 front kicks, which helps build their strength. Emotionally, by doing these things correctly, they are receiving positive feedback from the instructors which builds their confidence.

Game Based Learning 3 - 4 Year Olds

Mon, 09 May 2022 15:24:51 GMT

GAME-BASED LEARNING

The Benefits of Game-Based Learning for 3-4-year-olds

Play is often overlooked as a learning tool for children. Dictionarey.com defines play as “engaging in activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose.” It is seen as a type of “free time” when nothing else important is happening. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. For 3 to 4-year old’s, play is vital to their overall development and learning.

Children between the ages of 3 and 4 years old are growing physically, intellectually, emotionally, and socially, at a very rapid rate. They are discovering new things daily and are attempting to navigate the world with very little information and abilities. Because of this, it is important that they are involved in activities that help develop them in all areas, or what the SKILLZ program calls “4-dimensional instruction.”

As Maria Montessori best said it, “Play is the work of the child.” Children learn best through play and, therefore, game-based learning is a major contributor to learning and retention. But not only does it stimulate the brain, game-based learning also enhances social skills, builds emotional confidence, and develops children physically. This whole child approach to development and learning is exactly what 3 to 4-year old’s need.

After years of research, the SKILLZ program was created with this approach in mind. The curriculum for 3 and 4-year old’s was developed with more emphasis on building early fundamental skills training with a strategic balance of Martial Arts. With this innovative curriculum, the SKILLZ program uses game-based learning to take learning to a whole new level.

There are numerous benefits to this innovative way of learning. For 3 and 4- year old’s, participating in a program that utilizes this approach, gives them a jump start into enhancing their brain structure and function, developing social skills, and better control their strong emotions, all the while, building a stronger body.

As the SKILLZ program focuses on building the 8 early skills for 3-4-year-olds using martial arts as the approach, the system of game-based learning makes this learning process easier. The games are balanced in that they are fun but teach early developmental concepts at the same time. All SKILLZ games and drills are approached in this way. This, coupled with the teaching skills and the 10 laws of instruction, make the benefits of game-based learning even better.

For example, one drill for the 3 and 4-year old’s is “Helping Each Other.” In this drill, the students are partnered up to hold kicking pads for each other. They are to shake hands and say, “Do your best.” During this drill, they are physically working on kicks to help with their muscle development. Intellectually, they are utilizing their language to communicate with their partner. Emotionally, they are giving and receiving positive words of encouragement. Socially, it helps them by working together during the drill.

Serotonin

Mon, 02 May 2022 16:51:19 GMT

The Key To Reinforcing Positive Behaviors In Children and Teens

Serotonin is a chemical nerve cells produce. It sends signals between your never cells.

Have you ever had a “gut feeling” about something? Have you ever considered that children have these as well? Of course they do! The problem is, they don’t know how to express this to us. They know something doesn’t feel right, so they act out or exhibit a grumpy mood. The good news is, there is a way to boost their mood and reinforce positive behavior choices.

Serotonin, also known as the “feel good” neurotransmitter, plays a part in our wellbeing and is important in balancing mood. Ninety percent of the serotonin in our bodies is produced in the gut. This is because the gut and the brain were developed from the same embryo cell line and continue to communicate through the vagus nerve. This explains why the gut is often referred to as the “second brain” and where the phrase “gut feeling” comes from.

In recent studies serotonin levels have been found to also affect memory and learning. In addition to this, it helps build new neuropathways in the brain which supports the ability to learn new information more quickly. When there are higher levels of serotonin, moods are better and, therefore, cognitive functioning is improved. The problem is found when serotonin levels are too low. In children, this can manifest in behaviors such as poor impulse control and inattention.

Now that we understand the neuroscience surrounding serotonin, how can we, as parents, teachers, coaches, and anyone who works with children, use this information? We must create a learning environment that is inviting and form bonds with the children by setting an enthusiastic and positive mood.

The SKILLZ program does this by teaching with the brain in mind and utilizing game-based learning. Along with this, two of the Teaching SKILLZ that are used in class are specifically designed to increase the students’ serotonin levels.

1) Choices: The use of “choices” as a teaching skill in class helps the students build satisfaction because they have a say in what they are doing and, therefore, their excitement to do things increases. For example, when working on forms in class, if the instructor tells the students to do their forms for 15 minutes, they probably aren’t going to be that excited. But, if the instructor tells the students they can choose from doing their forms with weights, slow motion, backwards, or progressively, then the student will be more excited about getting to make their decision regarding this. And, they will then be more satisfied with the overall experience.

2) Redirection: The use of “redirection” in class helps the students feel more accomplished and, therefore, happier. For example, if you have a student in class that doesn’t always sit the best during mat chats, the instructor can say “When I count to three, let’s see who can sit faster than Johnny.” This student will be prompted to sit correctly and then he will feel more accomplished by showing how quickly he can sit correctly.

By utilizing these techniques, the instructors are increasing the students’ serotonin, which helps them become more satisfied in their accomplishments and it reinforces their good behaviors.

Oxytocin

Tue, 26 Apr 2022 20:18:18 GMT

The Key To Positive Social Relationships in Children and Teens

Oxytocin has been dubbed the “love chemical.” It is the hormone that is released when we feel love and trust in relationships.

For most people, they know oxytocin as a significant part of the parent-child bonding process. However, it is also very important in overall human relationships and is considered our “social glue.”

The release of oxytocin is not automatic but rather, a learned response. It is very important for children to develop an effective oxytocin response. We find that when children are abused or neglected, they often have underdeveloped oxytocin responses. This is because they have been locked in the fight or flight response and have not developed the oxytocin response to calm down. Therefore, bonding is very important to children in the early years of life.

This bonding, that significantly comes through the parent-child relationship, can also be nurtured through positive interactions with adults such as teachers, coaches, and anyone who works with them on a regular basis. Since oxytocin is an anti-stress chemical, children who feel love and trust with important adults in their lives are better able to cope with stress and are more open. These positive feelings also contribute to a more positive self-image and increased empathy. This creates an upward spiral of positive social relationships.

Now that we understand the neuroscience surrounding oxytocin, how can we, as parents, teachers, coaches, and anyone who works with children, use this information? We must create a learning environment that is safe and increases the child’s “social satisfaction.”

1) Healthy Competition: The use of “healthy competition” as a teaching skill in class helps the students’ make connections with their peers and gives them a “tribe” type bond. For example, when running a drill, the instructor may run it as girls vs. boys or long hair vs. short hair groups. This helps the students develop social connections, so they work together and trust each other to do the best for the team.

2) Extrinsic Motivation: The use of “extrinsic motivation” in class helps the students become more self-disciplined. For example, to get students more motivated, the instructor can say “If you do your form five times without any mistakes, I’ll do 10 pushups.” This is exciting for the students because it helps them to see the instructor as more vulnerable by having to do pushups. They develop the self-discipline to get their form correct so they can get the reward of seeing the instructor do pushups, which is fun for them.

The important thing to keep in mind is that our brains can develop a healthier oxytocin response at any age. It won’t happen overnight and will take time and effort on the part of the adult but the benefits for the child will be incredible. Creating environments that foster trust will make this process easier. Remember, even the smallest friendly interactions, such as fist bumps and high fives, can release oxytocin.

Consistency

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 12:30:00 GMT

Your child needs to know that no matter what happens, you are always going to be a consistent parent. Maintaining consistency means that you are going to be patient, connected, adaptable, and edutaining with your child all the time so your child knows what to expect from you and you know what to expect from them. Here are some pointers on parental consistency:

Do not sway in how you react to your child day to day, even if your child makes mistakes or has a temper tantrum. Instead, strive for a consistent approach in your parenting and especially in how you react to and resolve these types of situations.

Be Predictable. An inconsistent parent may yell at their child one day for a particular behavior, but the next day react with patience and use a similar situation as a teaching moment. This only creates confusion for your child’s expectations.

Don’t let your moods interfere. My mother was very inconsistent because of her moods. If I wanted to ask her a question, I knew not to ask when she was on the couch with a migraine, but when she was busy baking, I knew that it was a good time to ask. I had to assess her mood before approaching her because she was very inconsistent in her moods and her parenting.

Let your child know that they can rely on you. By being consistent, they will always know what to expect from you and that they can rely on you to help, teach, and motivate them.

Don’t be a Lawnmower Parent. This is the type of parent who cuts a path or “lawn” for their child by finishing everything for them such as finishing their child’s homework for them or resolving all their mistakes for them. In the end, their child never learns how to resolve their own issues or mistakes. While this is a “consistent” approach, it is not a healthy one. A better consistent approach is to let your child know that you will always strive to be connected, fair, attentive, patient and adaptable with them.

When you think about consistency, ask yourself how you typically react in different situations with your child. Do you lose it when you’re in a bad mood, or do you keep your cool? Be as consistent and reliable as possible with your child as you can, regardless of your mood, and they will learn to be consistent and reliable with you, too.

Adaptability

Tue, 22 Mar 2022 14:36:47 GMT

Adaptability is about how you respond to your child, especially when things do not go as planned. Your child will have a variety of great days, bad days, and everything in between. Here are a few ways you can apply adaptability to your parenting and keep your child motivated:

Intrinsic Motivation:

1. Choices

What do you do if your child does not want to do something?

You can intrinsically motivate them by allowing them to make choices or small decisions. Before I began using healthy competition to encourage my child to brush his teeth, I had to physically put the toothbrush in his mouth and brush for him. I eventually realized that I had to adapt differently because it was not working. He needed to learn to brush himself.

I took him to the store and let him pick out 2 toothbrushes to get him more interested in brushing his own teeth. Being adaptable meant giving him some choices so he felt more involved and motivated. Now he has 24 toothbrushes!

If your child is a picky eater, try giving them choices about what you buy at the grocery store for dinner. Let them pick if they want chicken or steak, for instance. Then, pick out a couple of good options and let them pick again. Now they have a vested interest in the meal. Finally, get them involved in making dinner, emphasizing that they helped to pick out the food that is being served for dinner. Take it a step further and work on creating a recipe together.

2. Make it Exciting

Build up the excitement when you want or need your child to do something. If you tell a bunch of 7 to 9-year-old children to do push-ups, for example, do you think they will be excited? Instead, if you give them options and motivated instructions, they will excel.

Do you think they would rather do just a few push-ups or would they do more if you told them that they would become “one of the most awesome and strong students in class!” by doing a few more? Chances are that they will choose to become awesome and strong. This type of intrinsic motivation excites them to make an extra effort.

3. Compromise

Another form of adaptability through intrinsic motivation is compromising when responding to your child’s requests. If your child comes home from school and wants a treat, but you want him to wait for dinner first, they may throw a temper tantrum or get upset because they didn’t get their way.

Providing a compromise that doesn’t affect their appetite before dinner but allows them to get what they want keeps the situation in perspective. For example, let them know that they can have two gummy bears out of the bag now, and the rest after dinner. This is a way to adapt to their request and keeps within your rules about not eating snacks that will spoil their appetite for dinner.

Extrinsic Motivation

4. Kids Like to See You Suffer!

Sometimes you need to pull out the pain card! Kids like to see you suffer or pay the price in some way. You may use an extrinsic motivation such as, “If you can do this drill without any mistakes, I’ll do push-ups!” They want to see you suffer through the push-ups, and they will do whatever it takes to make you have to do them.

I use this concept with my son. If he starts to procrastinate just as we are headed out the door, I use healthy competition and extrinsic motivation to get him moving! I tell him that if he runs to the car faster than me, I’ll do ten jumping jacks. He wins the race every time because he really wants me to do the jumping jacks. Then, he counts everyone one of them off as I do them. Being an adaptable parent means using external motivation when necessary.

As you consider your level of adaptability today, ask yourself if you ever apply similar intrinsic or extrinsic motivation to your child. If not, consider adding them to your parenting tool kit. Your child’s behavior will change based on their mood, so the best way to parent is to adapt to their day as best as possible.

Setting Your Child Up for Success

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 14:00:00 GMT

Prompting

How can you set your child up for daily success? One of the most effective ways to do this is to focus on prompting instead of punishment. Here’s what you need about prompting your child toward good behavior and decisions:

1. Friendly Competition

One of the ways to prompt your child toward good behavior is to create a simple competition where you dare them to turn a negative behavior to a positive one. If your child is fidgety and doesn’t sit still or tends to be disruptive, for instance, create a friendly competition or prompt that steers them to better behavior.

To have them sit still, you may ask “Let’s see if you can sit better than me!” This puts their focus on trying to do better than you. They learn how to sit still without even realizing it.

2. A Dose of Praise

If your child wins the friendly little competition, or they do something well, give them a good dose of praise. A few encouraging words such as, “Look at how good you are at this!” are positive reinforcement that makes them feel good about themselves and their accomplishments.

3. Set Your Child Up for Success.

The whole goal behind prompting is to catch your child doing good things. How often do you catch them doing something good rather than bad behavior? Every time you catch your child doing something good, let them know. Along with praise, setting your child up for success means you recognize and reward their good behaviors. In fact, the more you catch them doing good things, the more their brain tells them “I like this!” which gives them a good reason to continue.

4. Brain Power

The more you punish your child’s behavior, the more cortisol (stress hormone) is released and goes to your child’s brain. So, what kind of brain do you want your child to have? A brain that is excited about doing good things, or a brain that anticipates getting in trouble? I know my choice. I want my child to be constantly excited about doing good things.

5. Redirect

Helping your child improve their behaviors involves more than prompting them, setting them up for success, and catching them do good things. Sometimes prompting involves redirection. Redirection is simply redirecting their attention in a different direction when they are upset, worried or anxious. Completely change the subject to something positive and engaging. If they are upset, redirect them to look out the window at something interesting, or ask about a favorite toy. This type of prompting helps divert their attention to a positive experience which supersedes their other difficult emotions.

The final questions to ask yourself is how well you prompt your child for successful interactions and behaviors. I think we can all agree that children will not have the very best discipline all the time. To improve their level of discipline, it is important that we prompt them all the time. Then, catch your child doing good things and set them up for success.

How Much Patience Do You Have?

Thu, 10 Mar 2022 17:16:54 GMT

Does your child test your patience?

Take a few extra seconds when responding to poor behavior. This demonstrates compassion, empathy, and self-control on your part. Sometimes all you need to do is think about responding in the most patient manner to help re-direct your child. A few seconds can make a big difference.

1. Ask, Listen, Explain

Patience helps you to establish better solutions for difficult moments with your child.

If your child has a temper tantrum, for instance, take a few seconds to calm down before reacting. Then, ask questions to help determine what is really driving the behavior. Listen to what they say and then explain what they could have done instead.

Patience can lead to understanding and solutions. Be patient and ask the right questions to get your child back on track.

2. Give a Do-over

A do-over is exactly as it sounds – the chance to do something again. Using patience means giving your child the chance to act in a better way than they did the first time around.

The perfect time to implement a do-over is when your child says something out of anger, such as “You are not my favorite mommy!” A do-over begins by telling your child that this is not the proper way for them to speak to you. You may begin with, “Let’s do this over. What is a nicer way to talk to me when you are upset?” This gives them the chance to explain why they are upset in a different way. It may be as simple as they didn’t want to stop playing to eat dinner. Allow them the chance to re-phrase and then go from there, such as letting them know that they can play more, just after dinner.

When you allow your child a do-over, you use patience with your child and apply patience to the way that you react to their behavior.

3. Provide Teaching Moments

Many people assume that discipline means “to punish,” when it really means, “to teach.”

When your child makes a mistake, you can either punish, or you can discipline through patient teaching moments. In a soccer game, if a player misses the ball, the coach doesn’t yell and get angry with them. Instead, they explain what went wrong and help the player by letting them know how they can improve the next time.

A parental teaching moment is the same. When your child makes a mistake, use patience to explain what they did wrong and provide them information that will help them improve or not make the same mistake again. A teaching moment provides options and solutions, while punishment does not.

The question to ask yourself today is how patient are you with your child. How many times do you give them do-overs? Try to give them as many do-overs as possible so they can learn how to behave and communicate better. In the long run, both of you learn valuable teaching moments through patience.

Edutainment

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 18:57:43 GMT

Be the parent your child needs you to be. They need you to be in their world. That means interacting and playing with them on their level to prompt them through the tasks and chores they don’t want to do. Here are some tips and examples on using effectively using edutainment with your child.

1. Practice Healthy Competition

The child brain loves novelty. That is why healthy competition and games get them excited. You can help your child accomplish the daily tasks they do not necessarily want to do by adding a fun edutainment component.

Edutainment in daily tasks may include incorporating a game or competition into their nighttime routine to prompt them to get ready for bed, pick up their toys, or brush their teeth long enough.

For instance, when it’s time for bed, create a healthy, fun competition that gets them excited. You might tell them, “Okay! It’s time to get ready for bed! Let’s see who can race to the bathroom the fastest!” Once this task is completed, follow up with “Who can get their toothbrush out and put the toothpaste on the fastest?” or “Who can brush their teeth the longest?” For toothbrushing, when you know the two minutes is up, you can finish first, allowing them to win the competition of brushing for at least two minutes. Then, follow up with how surprised or excited that you are that they won.

2. Be Playful with Your Child

Your child is not going to behave all the time. They are not perfect. When your child throws a temper tantrum, is upset or is insistent on something, add something playful to the mix that takes their mind off it.

If my son throws a temper tantrum, sometimes I pretend in a silly way that I am falling and hurt my foot and he laughs. Or, if he sits in a chair that I specifically told him that I am going to sit in, I playfully act like I am going to sit on him. He likes the silliness, and it detracts and redirects him away from his original temper tantrum or negative behavior.

3. Think Outside the Box

Playfulness and silliness work, but other times creative solutions help your child accomplish their tasks and chores. Homework is one thing that your child may not enjoy. Think outside the box to what excites them and incorporate that into their homework time.

Younger children love tents, so building a tent or fort in the living room together where they can go to do their homework is an exciting way to mask the doldrums of homework. For teens, coffee shops are common favorite hangouts, so going to one where they can have their favorite coffee drink and do their homework is a treat that they will look forward to. Both scenarios change your child’s negative outlook on homework to something positive.

How edutaining are you as a parent? Whatever your level, you can better implement healthy competition, fun, and creative approaches to motivate your child. A child’s way of interpreting things is rarely ever black and white, usually because they are not eager to learn. When you edutain, you help them learn in a behavior that they embrace.

Nurturing

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Being a nurturing parent means adjusting your child’s behaviors, not trying to change them. In other words, change the behavior, not the child.

1. Let them Know that Mistakes are Okay

I get excited when my son makes a mistake because it gives me the opportunity to teach him, which is what parenting is all about. Address your child’s mistakes in a nurturing way to help them learn and grow without feeling bad about themselves. Let your child know that everyone makes mistakes. Don’t get angry at them when they make a mistake but take the time to explain how they can do better next time. Look at it as a time to help your child improve so they can feel good about who they are. The most important thing is to let them know that mistakes are okay.

2. Redefine Their Weaknesses

Every child has behavioral weaknesses. Some get mad when they don’t win and physically show their anger by acting out. Others are very sensitive and cry every time they are disappointed or sad. From one end of the spectrum to the other, your child will have a range of emotions.

The first key to redefining your child’s behavior is to redefine your perspective. For example, you may think that the only thing you can do to alleviate your child acting like a poor sport is to remove them from situations that trigger these behaviors, like eliminating sports from their schedule.

Or, if your child cries at the drop of the hat, you may decide that they should not participate in situations where they may cry yet another time. This perspective focuses on the child and not the behavior.

Instead, turn your attention to what their behavior really means and create a course of action that helps them funnel their personalities and behaviors in a more positive and productive way, which begins with nourishing and not negating their innate passions and skills.

3. Nourish their Skills

If you look ahead to a scenario in the future, you can see how a child who was identified as bull-headed or a bad sport might use that passion and fire that drove him to want to be the best into becoming an amazing CEO of a company, dedicated and committed to being the very best.

Or, the child who cries a lot may become an adult of compassion and empathy, a caring parent, and a person who wants to change the world for the better. None of this can happen if their behaviors are stifled instead of explored.

Try not to stifle the passions and emotions that make your child who they are. Instead, consider how you can help them modify their behaviors so that their passions and innate talents are nourished as they grow. This requires providing ways that they can be who they are through positive reinforcement of who they already are, which ultimately helps them become thriving and successful adults.

4. Choose the Direction

So, how do we get from here to there, from the spoiled brat to a successful CEO, for instance; or, from crybaby to the caring parent and teacher? The key is to point their behavior in the right direction. The best way to deal with your child’s behaviors is to turn them into strengths.

For the child who gets upset when he loses, you might adjust their behavior by saying, “I love that passion that you have, but let’s work together on other ways you can express that passion and desire to others” instead of the common “If you do that again, you’re out” mindset.

For the child who cries often, don’t shame them into thinking that they must toughen up. Instead, let them know that you love their heart. Tell them, “I love that you get sad when you lose because you want to do better. But, crying all the time makes other people sad, too. Let’s see if you can choose a better way to show that you are sad than just crying.”

Remember, nurturing means changing the behavior, not the child. No child is born with a proper sense of good behavior. Just like adults, they make mistakes and that is how they learn. Make sure to look at their mistakes as opportunities for education versus punishment.

The moral of the story is that when you look at your child, don’t focus on their behaviors. Instead, see the child who will one day use their passion to become an amazing adult one day. See them as an amazing CEO or a person who is going to change the world for the better one day, and go from there.

Connection With Your Child

Tue, 08 Feb 2022 06:20:36 GMT

One of the most important things that you can do as a parent is establish a connection with your child. In fact, children need connection more than anything else.

Here are a few ways that you can begin to build a great connection with your child:

Daily Interactions:

Make one-on-one connections with your child. Instead of asking a question from across the room, take an extra 15 seconds to walk to your child, get down on their level, maybe tap their shoulder or touch their arm, and ask the question. Chances are they will engage right away (instead of ignoring you) and answer you because you have made that personal connection.
Connect with your child as many times per day as possible. Every positive connection with your child means fewer disconnected or frustrating moments for both of you.
Begin positive connections when your child is young. The more positive connections you make early on, the better they will respond and communicate as they get older. Over time they will have a strong enough connection with you that you no longer need to be right in front of them for them to answer your question.
Reduce stressful interactions. Good connections reduce stress or cortisol, which is the stress hormone. If you get upset with your child, it makes them upset, too. By improving your connections daily, you begin to eliminate some of the obstacles in your communication with them which also eliminates stressful interactions

Boost their Neurotransmitters!

You can “up” your child’s neurotransmitters to build a better parent-child connection, which means improving your relationship with your child by giving them positive reinforcement in a variety of ways that will allow them to thrive, feel happy, and be healthy.

Tell your child about something that is going to happen that is exciting, so they can look forward to it. This improves the neurotransmitter Dopamine which is the anticipation chemical.
Hug your child and let them know they are important. Oxytocin is the chemical that reacts through touching.
Give your child praise for good behavior or a job well done. This improves Serotonin which is about feeling satisfied.
Finally, give your child the chance to run and play or engage in a fun physical activity, especially when they are stressed or feel anxiety. Endorphins are engaged through active movement.

The last key bit of advice is to self-assess. How connected you think you are with your child right now? On a scale of 1 to 5 what grade would you give yourself? Put these tips into action and make a better connection with your child because the more you connect, the better.

Parental Attunement

Mon, 07 Feb 2022 06:20:36 GMT

Do you ever feel like you can read your child’s mind? You know what they are going to do or say next because they have had the same reaction before? This is attunement. Improving your attunement skills will allow you to create a more patient and understanding relationship with your child.

1. Modify Your Child’s Behavior:

Be attuned to your child’s anxieties and try a creative approach that allows them to focus on positive behaviors and interactions instead of their anxieties or stresses.

If you are attuned to the fact that your child has anxiety about going to school in the morning, for instance, help them relieve their stress by adding some interactive play time with them before school. This will boost their endorphins, so they feel good and less stressed. Allowing them to run off some of their energy in the morning creates a positive and consistent change in their behavior.

2. Wait for the Right time

Applying patience is an attunement-builder because when you understand your child’s mood you can eliminate some of the common struggles you have with them.

If your child wakes up happy most mornings, but grumpy after naps on the weekend (like my son!), you are already attuned to expect that behavior. It might be better to wait, or to be patient, until they feel a little less grumpy to talk to them or ask them to do something. You will get better results that way, and they will be less grumpy when they respond.

3. Understand Your Child’s Stage of Development

Being attuned to your child’s stages of development will break some of the assumptions that you have about them, which will improve your relationship and understanding with your child.

When you ask a 3 to 4-year old to sit on the floor, they seem to roll around a lot. Are they not paying attention? Chances are that part of their behavior is due to their physical stage of development. Physically, it is uncomfortable in their core muscles to sit on the floor for long without rolling back.

Similarly, 10 to 14-year old’s seem lazy. They look like they do not have enough energy to take the trash out after watching a movie. What’s really going on here? Research shows that they are literally physically, scientifically exhausted. Their body and brain are changing from kid versions to adult versions, which makes them seem less than smart and overly lazy.

By being attuned to their stages of development, you can communicate better with them knowing what to expect and why.

4. Anticipate Language Barriers

Being attuned to your child’s development in language skills will help you understand their responses and reactions, and not get frustrated if they only respond to bits and piece of what you ask. If you learned a foreign language for only a few years and heard a conversation among

fluent speakers, would you understand it completely or only be able to pick out a word, phrase or topic here and there?

If several children hear, “Molly, can you come here” it is possible that several of them will come running instead of just Molly. This is because they only heard the instructional phrase and not necessarily the name. Kids apply the only language skills that they have at their age of development, which for a 3 or 4-year-old is only 3 or 4 years!

5. Practice Response Flexibility

Probably the best thing you can do to improve your reactions as a parent is to practice response flexibility. This means being flexible with your child’s mood and deciding what must be finished immediately, and what can wait. Or, realizing that it is not necessary to be harsh every time something bad happens.

Recently my son decided it was a good idea to do a flip on top of me when I was on the couch and busted my nose. Instead of yelling at him, I used response flexibility and kept my reaction in perspective because I know that he didn’t do it on purpose. He was playing, and I had to keep that in perspective. Explaining what happened to them and using it as a teaching moment is a more responsible way to respond using response flexibility.

Attunement all comes down to how well you know your child and their moods, and how well you know yourself. Start thinking about how you can help your child use the right behaviors by being more attuned to their development, behaviors, language skills and mood, and most importantly, try to practice response flexibility when the unexpected happens. Sometimes your child will learn more from how you respond than from what you say.